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Comment on Love: Does it really matter what color it comes in? by Relationships, Dating,and Love | True Essence

Relationships, Dating,and Love | True Essence — Wed, 08 May 2013 15:05:05 +0000

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Comment on Self torture continued, my road to running in a half marathon by Jenni C.

Jenni C. — Wed, 08 May 2013 07:24:13 +0000

Lol most people don’t know that, unless they knew me before college. Just don’t leave me behind I may need help in the event I decide to pass out!

Comment on Self torture continued, my road to running in a half marathon by Kevin O.

Kevin O. — Wed, 08 May 2013 06:56:44 +0000

First off, I had no idea you used to be a “fat kid”. Secondly, I’ll be suffering right there with you. Haha

Comment on Bikram Yoga: I wonder if this is what Hell feels like? by Bernie

Bernie — Mon, 06 May 2013 19:57:53 +0000

Wonderful post! We are linking to this great content on our site.
Keep up the great writing.

Comment on Adventures of my first Match.com Stir event by Jenni C.

Jenni C. — Thu, 28 Mar 2013 16:21:12 +0000

As a guy you can approach a woman and start with the basic conversation and getting to know you questions, chances are she is feeling just as awkward as you so lighten the mood with humor, no need to be overly serious, and no need to put on a show either. Most importantly pay attention to her body language, women say a lot in body language. If she is avoiding eye contact, looking at her watch, looking around the room for other guys to talk to, then you just politely say goodbye, and spend your time meeting someone who is equally interested in you. Now if she leans in close to you, smiles a lot, and pays close attention to what you are talking about, then you got a match. But be careful not to get too clingy too soon, feel free to walk away, explore the room, and see if she continues to make eye contact with you. If you see her smiling at you from across the room, then your in, and you have found a match. Make sure to get her phone number, that way you won’t have to hunt her down on match.com.

Comment on Adventures of my first Match.com Stir event by Dan

Dan — Thu, 28 Mar 2013 05:40:11 +0000

So as a guy who signed up for one of these things, what would you him rather talk about? Just curious. Hopefully I won’t put anyone at the event through the ordeal you described…But I’m not very good at putting up a show either.

Comment on Adventures of my first Match.com Stir event by Jenni C.

Jenni C. — Thu, 28 Mar 2013 01:25:58 +0000

LOL yup! That is a match.com event for sure. Thanks for the comment.

Comment on Adventures of my first Match.com Stir event by R

Wed, 20 Mar 2013 10:13:25 +0000

Hi, went to one of these in Scotland last night. Luckily with two friends. We went in, discovered the promised free drinks were limited in number and had run out so match.com LIED! We looked at all the middle-aged (we’re early 30s), awkward people, turned around, left, went to some other bars and drank some cocktails. Never again!

Comment on Adventures of my first Match.com Stir event by Jenni C.

Jenni C. — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 05:25:18 +0000

Good luck! I hope you have a better experience

Comment on Adventures of my first Match.com Stir event by cheryl

cheryl — Mon, 28 Jan 2013 04:58:48 +0000

I am going to one in two weeks, yikes!!

Comment on I am afraid to sleep at night because I am scared of my dreams by Linhlinhh

Linhlinhh — Fri, 25 Jan 2013 01:56:34 +0000

Same. My situation is just like you. I’m afraid to sleep at night because of those stupid dreams. Actually I have a boy friend. and we are dating for about 2 months. in 2 months, everyday I always dreams about 1 dream, 2 person and 1 story. But it’s a sad and hurt dream. I don’t want to dream about it. but EVERYDAY when I sleep that dream just replay in 2 months. I’m totally agree with you I think no one can understand about what I have met and dream about. And now i just wanna share this with you because everythings that you feel is just perfect with my feeling. I don’t know what to do!. should i meet a doctor or do some yoga? Anyways, nice to meet and share my story with you ^___^

Comment on My 2013 Theme: “Keeping It Simple” (KIS) by Welcome Back | Zillion Journey

Welcome Back | Zillion Journey — Mon, 14 Jan 2013 01:00:56 +0000

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Comment on My 2013 Theme: “Keeping It Simple” (KIS) by Can life get any complicated | Zillion Journey

Can life get any complicated | Zillion Journey — Mon, 14 Jan 2013 00:59:25 +0000

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Comment on The Maid of Honor wedding diaries (part 1) by Jenni C.

Jenni C. — Wed, 09 Jan 2013 01:04:58 +0000

Thank you! It was defiantly a challenge

Comment on The Maid of Honor wedding diaries (part 1) by Caitlin

Caitlin — Sun, 06 Jan 2013 20:50:00 +0000

Congrats on pulling off a bachelorette party in NYC! That’s no easy task.

Comment on The Maid of Honor wedding diaries (part 1) by lifechangecounseling

lifechangecounseling — Sun, 06 Jan 2013 10:55:16 +0000

U don’t have to be hung over to have a good time.

Comment on My 2013 Theme: “Keeping It Simple” (KIS) by lifechangecounseling

lifechangecounseling — Sun, 06 Jan 2013 10:50:03 +0000

Good insight and good luck!

Comment on My 2013 Theme: “Keeping It Simple” (KIS) by Jenni C.

Jenni C. — Sun, 06 Jan 2013 02:10:33 +0000

Thank you, I will remember to just breathe!

Comment on My 2013 Theme: “Keeping It Simple” (KIS) by smilecalm

smilecalm — Sun, 06 Jan 2013 01:54:12 +0000

Wonderful to stop. I find it useful to take mindful breaths to help relax the body, and also let go of the thinking. May you be well and feel safe.

Comment on Merry Christmas to all! by Jenni C.

Jenni C. — Thu, 27 Dec 2012 06:22:31 +0000

Thank You!

Comment on Merry Christmas to all! by lifechangecounseling

lifechangecounseling — Wed, 26 Dec 2012 13:25:50 +0000

Good to hear from you. It has been too long. Have a safe trip back.

Comment on Adventures of my first Match.com Stir event by Jenni C.

Jenni C. — Tue, 11 Dec 2012 11:48:23 +0000

Thanks so much I still have much hope that chivalry does exist!

Comment on Adventures of my first Match.com Stir event by Mr. Anonymous

Mr. Anonymous — Wed, 05 Dec 2012 14:53:58 +0000

Hey there! As a single guy in his late 20s in DC and dealing with dating fatigue (both in-person and online), I think your review provided a useful review of the stir event.

I’m sorry that you were wet walking home – I would have shaded you in if I noticed. What happened to chivalry!

Good luck with the bouncer.

Comment on Adventures of my first Match.com Stir event by Jenni C.

Jenni C. — Mon, 26 Nov 2012 07:01:42 +0000

Thanks for reading! I actually ran into the bouncer a few weekends ago at another bar, I just waved and said hello because he was talking to the DJ. But I guess if it’s fate then we will see each other again

Comment on Adventures of my first Match.com Stir event by Anne

Anne — Thu, 22 Nov 2012 01:27:55 +0000

Great post! I always wondered how painfully awkward those events must be. Thanks for confirming

Have you seen the bouncer since?

Comment on Looking for love in all the wrong places by Jenni C.

Jenni C. — Mon, 23 Jul 2012 19:51:55 +0000

Thank you! I believe in anything that will help me find love!

Comment on Looking for love in all the wrong places by SlidingDoors

SlidingDoors — Sun, 22 Jul 2012 01:59:57 +0000

I enjoyed reading your postings… Shall I say believe in – Serendipity?

Comment on I am afraid to sleep at night because I am scared of my dreams by Jenni C.

Jenni C. — Thu, 05 Jul 2012 17:17:55 +0000

Oh sure I do Yoga sometimes, but it never helps me with sleep. Maybe I should do it before I go to bed, that may help my mind calm down. I am not good at meditation so I don’t do it often but I know that it can put me to sleep. I really need to just work on clearing my mind, don’t want to get addicted to sleeping pills or anything. Well I hope I find something that works soon! Thanks for reading and Thanks so much for the comment!

Comment on I am afraid to sleep at night because I am scared of my dreams by suvexa

suvexa — Thu, 05 Jul 2012 09:15:52 +0000

i too will totally agree with what *lifechangecounseling* said, however, i am sure you must have heard of Yoga and Meditation. They are not like a Dr.’s prescribed drug nor like a therapist’s fast counseling, hey do don’t work as fast as those two, but in the long run, Meditation and yoga is much more healthier and friendly to health than any either a Dr. prescribed med or psychiatrist’s therapy.
i hope you get better soon… and have a good night sleep real quick!

Comment on Bikram Yoga: I wonder if this is what Hell feels like? by Anatomical Focus

Anatomical Focus — Thu, 31 May 2012 16:33:16 +0000

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Comment on I am afraid to sleep at night because I am scared of my dreams by Things I’m Afraid to Tell You | Ocdbloggergirl's Blog: OCD, Life, and Other Misunderstandings

Thu, 31 May 2012 05:07:46 +0000

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Comment on I have a confession: I am a black woman, and I work out by Jenni C.

Jenni C. — Thu, 24 May 2012 08:39:13 +0000

Body image is something that many girls struggle with no matter the race. I know other black girls who feel they are too skinny and try anything just to gain weight because a be a size 10 or 12 is a more acceptable image for black women. However, there are also other black girls who suffer from eating disorders but they frequently go unnoticed because to have anorexia or bulimia is usually seen as a “white girl” problem, yet in reality eating disorders can affect any one of any race.

I find that in order to maintain a great relationship with fitness is that if I constantly remind myself that I am doing this solely for me. No one else matters as long as I feel good, I am healthy, happy, and enjoy what I am doing. And I also realized along the way that no one really pays attention to me at the gym, so that helps. But as long as working out is fun, I am ready to do it. Good luck finding winter workouts, I do not miss that part about living in NY, outdoor workouts are really refreshing.

Thanks for the comment!

Comment on I have a confession: I am a black woman, and I work out by Jenni C.

Jenni C. — Thu, 24 May 2012 08:18:58 +0000

No I really hate running, I think I just enjoy self torture lol, and I have a competitive edge that I just can’t seem to shake.

Comment on I have a confession: I am a black woman, and I work out by Olympia

Olympia — Wed, 23 May 2012 17:50:56 +0000

I don’t like running either. I used to run long distance (poorly) in high school and was on our very competitive soccer team. At this point in my life, I associate running with high school sports trauma. When I lived in my old city, I bought a bike and it changed my life. I hadn’t biked a lot since I was a kid, but I just love biking and will go on 20 mi bike rides now. It was a new way for me to enjoy fitness. Sometimes you need to find a different outlet–the US is so running-centric–but swimming, yoga, dance, biking, etc, are all great options.

I find your experiences of exercise so different from me as a white lady. How fascinating. I read the NYT piece. I am from the Northeast and went to a super-expensive elite liberal arts college where everyone was a superachiever and had all sorts of control issues. At a size 12, I was literally the fattest person I knew in college; the gym was a place of self-hate for me because I used to go and hate my body and feel the judging eyes of people who had obsessive exercising tendencies. I could feel people judging what I ate. We had this shitty anonymous posting forum and men would post about the women they drunkenly hooked up with, complaining about their thunder thighs. I was terrified to have sex and become that woman men regretted sleeping with. My friend quit the XC team because long distance running was a cover for eating disorders–it was so bad on the team that the coach began pre-meet weigh-in. You had to weigh *enough* to run.

I have struggled in my adult years to find a healthy relationship to fitness and exercise that doesn’t invoke all of these negative emotions. I play some pick-up soccer and do swing dancing and ride my bike, but I need something more indoors and regularized now that I live in winterland. It is encouraging you have found such peace with fitness and your own cultural situation.

Great post!

Comment on I am afraid to sleep at night because I am scared of my dreams by lifechangecounseling

lifechangecounseling — Wed, 23 May 2012 11:53:16 +0000

Not me. But I would encourage you talk to a doctor or another therapist. This is serious stuff.

Comment on I have a confession: I am a black woman, and I work out by lifechangecounseling

lifechangecounseling — Wed, 23 May 2012 11:49:27 +0000

I don’t think you really hate running. You wouldn’t love to compete so much if you hated it. I have been a runner all my life and it is the best. Forget the treadmill, that is for hamsters.

Comment on No more first dates please! by Jenni C.

Jenni C. — Wed, 23 May 2012 06:23:31 +0000

Lol I think everywhere has a shortage of men, Hawaii is no different. Thanks for following back, I enjoyed reading your blog!

Comment on No more first dates please! by ksoranna

ksoranna — Wed, 23 May 2012 03:28:33 +0000

Well at least you are living in paradise!! I live in North Carolina…where there is a shortage of men, let alone good men. And thanks for the “follow”!!

Comment on No more first dates please! by Jenni C.

Jenni C. — Wed, 23 May 2012 03:23:42 +0000

I try to believe that yes it gets so much better, and right now this is just a test of my patience

Comment on No more first dates please! by ksoranna

ksoranna — Wed, 23 May 2012 03:19:56 +0000

LOL…I read this post and couldn’t help but think that sounds like something I would write!! I know that the dating world has got to get better…it just has to…

Comment on No more first dates please! by Jenni C.

Jenni C. — Fri, 18 May 2012 23:04:53 +0000

Thank you, I always try to keep that thought in the back of my mind

Comment on No more first dates please! by Jenni C.

Jenni C. — Fri, 18 May 2012 23:03:53 +0000

Thanks for reading! Hopefully you never have to experience the drunk date, I think it is at the top of my list as worse date ever!

Comment on No more first dates please! by Olympia

Olympia — Fri, 18 May 2012 15:26:11 +0000

Just found this blog. I’ve been there, but never was someone drunk on a date! Good for you for having the confidence to bolt!

Comment on No more first dates please! by betterlettered

betterlettered — Fri, 18 May 2012 11:57:01 +0000

Don’t give up! Romance – or should I say true love – comes when you least expect it. I know it’s a cliche but there’s a reason for that! ;D

Comment on Comfortable in my own skin (and it only took me 30 years to do it) by Jenni C.

Jenni C. — Wed, 21 Mar 2012 06:03:04 +0000

I completely agree!!

Comment on Comfortable in my own skin (and it only took me 30 years to do it) by passionfortruths

passionfortruths — Wed, 21 Mar 2012 05:58:05 +0000

It’s the energy of the current times… Feeling liberated and self-empowered.

Comment on 29 and counting…Its Over. My 20′s a decade in review by Jenni C.

Jenni C. — Wed, 21 Mar 2012 03:51:53 +0000

Thank you so much! I am taking it one day at a time, and doing my best to enjoy each moment.

Comment on 29 and counting…Its Over. My 20′s a decade in review by Kimberly Johnston

Kimberly Johnston — Wed, 21 Mar 2012 03:16:23 +0000

You sound like you have learned many valuable lessons. Life is just beginning for you ~ Enjoy it and Embrace it! You are off to a FANTASTIC start my friend! Blessings!!

Comment on 29 and counting…Lessons learned from my mother by Jenni C.

Jenni C. — Mon, 19 Mar 2012 12:30:37 +0000

Thank you, you only get one!

Comment on My insurance company pays for my birth control, I guess that makes me a slut too! by lifechangecounseling

lifechangecounseling — Mon, 19 Mar 2012 09:01:05 +0000

Very good answer to Rush’s stupid statements. You are right that men know nothing about birth control, but I do now. Only one criticism, saying Rush’s statements are like a child’s is a disservice to children. Just say Rush is a stupid, bigoted moron.